In college, I was in the Computer-Based Honors Program at UA. A unique part of the program was having the opportunity to do research as undergraduates with professors in our interest areas. We were responsible for organizing and completing our own projects each semester, but we met once a week in class with the director of the program to present, give status updates, and learn skills and tips for what we were working on. One of the topics from those weekly seminars that has stood out in my mind even after graduation was the advice to “manage expectations.” Since we were responsible for our own projects, we needed to clearly communicate with our project manager and the CBH director our goals, timeline, progress, successes, and possible roadblocks. It was a valuable life lesson. Today I want to apply that same idea to something more personal – learning to manage your own expectations of yourself.
I’m all for having big dreams and aiming high, but sometimes you have to realize you can’t do it all.
This is a hard pill for me to swallow and a lesson I still haven’t learned. Every day I have the expectation that I should be able to go to work, cook dinner, keep the house clean, blog, sew, write, and hang out with my husband. I rarely get through it all, and when I do I don’t get to spend the amount of time on each thing that I think I should. Then I start to beat myself up for not accomplishing every little thing. It’s not healthy. I need to learn to let go of the little things and work on the big picture.
I need to manage my own expectations of myself.
Have goals and work towards them, but realize you can’t do everything no matter how much you may want to. Look for things that can wait and work on the things that will help you reach your goals. Manage your own expectations.
Am I the only one who struggles with this? Does anyone have any advice for me?